Even before It’s Complicated hit theaters and this Valentine’s Day got people thinking about lost loves, one of the most popular user decisions has been Should I Get Back Together With My Ex?

The appeal of getting back together with an ex is obvious. There is already a built-in familiarity and comfort level, as well as a shared history and fond memories. No awkward first dates, no 20-questions about each other’s families and backgrounds. Throw in a long-standing chemistry and you face a very compelling argument for deciding to get back together. That is, of course, if you can decide to forget any painful history and to ignore the advice of concerned friends and family.

When it comes to deciding to get back together with an ex, there are many issues you should consider, from why exactly you parted ways to begin with, how you and your ex may or may not have changed, and so on. And where else to get advice but Oprah.com’s relationships page? M. Gary Neuman, a family therapist, offers his two cents in this article: “Get Back Together With Your Ex? It’s Complicated.” He addresses the pros and cons, and also offers advice for those who do decide to give it a go. If all you have in mind is a booty call, decide to read Sex and the City screenwriter Cindy Chupack’s advice about deciding to call up an ex: “Should You Sleep With An Ex?” (Spoiler: she doesn’t recommend it.)

So, what are Simonites deciding to do? As far as results go, the decision outcomes have been split pretty evenly between deciding to get back together and deciding to stay apart. What are users considering when trying to decide what to do about their exes? The #1 factor, by a long shot, is “Love,” with “Happiness” and “Avoiding pain” in a close race for second place.

Have any of you decided to get back together with an ex? How did it work out? Any advice for other Simonites?

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